Welcome to Rae on the Way where I am in no position to help you so I am taking you on a journey as I fix myself.
Honest moment, I tend to be a little age-is, judging someone based on their age. I am optimistic towards children, they are the future and they are not fully corrupted yet. And old people they have put in their time and get my respect by default, let's be real. But, when it comes to hanging out with young folk, the teens to young adult age, I tend to judge.
Why are you dancing like you grown? Stop making out with that person in the street, there are children around? Please stop yelling for no reason in this restaurant. Stealing is not funny. Being difficult to servers does not make you cool. And picking on one of your peers makes you look seem like a total tool.
Obviously, this does not apply to all teens. But this is exactly what I mean by judging teens. I find myself rolling my eyes at the obnoxious teens near me in the restaurant, as if I have never been excited to have a crush text me, and showed it with a squeal of excitement. I shake y head at their weird style and culture choices, because they aren't things I would do. Basically saying:
Oh my gosh be more like me!!!!!
Which in every and all cases is weird and wrong. I am such a hypocrite when it comes to teens, any other age group do you boo boo!! If you want to wear your diaper around the house and dance, enjoy it while you can, baby. If you want to wear mumu's everywhere rock that grandma. But teen if you want to wear your hair crazy for whatever reason it annoys me. I think teens have become the "we love to hate" age group. That's not fair to them. So, I want to apologize.
For discriminating against a group of people merely because of their age. I have learned from all of my friends, from every age group. So let's go through the things I love:
Honest moment, I tend to be a little age-is, judging someone based on their age. I am optimistic towards children, they are the future and they are not fully corrupted yet. And old people they have put in their time and get my respect by default, let's be real. But, when it comes to hanging out with young folk, the teens to young adult age, I tend to judge.
Why are you dancing like you grown? Stop making out with that person in the street, there are children around? Please stop yelling for no reason in this restaurant. Stealing is not funny. Being difficult to servers does not make you cool. And picking on one of your peers makes you look seem like a total tool.
Obviously, this does not apply to all teens. But this is exactly what I mean by judging teens. I find myself rolling my eyes at the obnoxious teens near me in the restaurant, as if I have never been excited to have a crush text me, and showed it with a squeal of excitement. I shake y head at their weird style and culture choices, because they aren't things I would do. Basically saying:
Oh my gosh be more like me!!!!!
Which in every and all cases is weird and wrong. I am such a hypocrite when it comes to teens, any other age group do you boo boo!! If you want to wear your diaper around the house and dance, enjoy it while you can, baby. If you want to wear mumu's everywhere rock that grandma. But teen if you want to wear your hair crazy for whatever reason it annoys me. I think teens have become the "we love to hate" age group. That's not fair to them. So, I want to apologize.
For discriminating against a group of people merely because of their age. I have learned from all of my friends, from every age group. So let's go through the things I love:
Kids:
My favorite thing about them, dreaming is ok and having fun is never embarrassing. I can't tell you how many times I have missed out on fun things because I was concerned of what people would think of me. Now....I come back from events and talk about why I loved it and other people say "hmm...maybe I will go next time." The most recent ocurrance of this is going to a group mental health workshop for communication. It's pretty awesome and some people are interested in going now.
Also, SOAP BOX moment!!
If you are one of those people who make fun of people in clubs for dancing. How miserable do you have to be to make fun of someone for DANCING in a place that is meant to be DANCED in. You are way too focused on other people and can go count sand on a beach. Let them live their life and maybe think about why you can’t have fun without making fun of other people. Because that’s sad.
Segway back to the point:
Kids will dance how they want and without any music. Dance! I remember when I use to nanny I could hear the 2 year old, singing everything and anything like "Can I haaaaave a snaaaaack pleeease Rae Rae?" I also remember the 5 year old distinctly wearing a skirt, pants, t-shirt, tank top, jacket. There was even a kid at the bus stop who asked why she dressed like that and she said "because I want to." That is something I desire to get to that level of confidence. I am so thankful for the kids in my life that have taught me, that it doesn't matter the color of the power ranger suit they are all awesome in different ways, and learning that being pretty is sometimes a hard life to live because the pretty flowers always get picked and die. Thank you kids for all those life lessons.
My favorite thing about them, dreaming is ok and having fun is never embarrassing. I can't tell you how many times I have missed out on fun things because I was concerned of what people would think of me. Now....I come back from events and talk about why I loved it and other people say "hmm...maybe I will go next time." The most recent ocurrance of this is going to a group mental health workshop for communication. It's pretty awesome and some people are interested in going now.
Also, SOAP BOX moment!!
If you are one of those people who make fun of people in clubs for dancing. How miserable do you have to be to make fun of someone for DANCING in a place that is meant to be DANCED in. You are way too focused on other people and can go count sand on a beach. Let them live their life and maybe think about why you can’t have fun without making fun of other people. Because that’s sad.
Segway back to the point:
Kids will dance how they want and without any music. Dance! I remember when I use to nanny I could hear the 2 year old, singing everything and anything like "Can I haaaaave a snaaaaack pleeease Rae Rae?" I also remember the 5 year old distinctly wearing a skirt, pants, t-shirt, tank top, jacket. There was even a kid at the bus stop who asked why she dressed like that and she said "because I want to." That is something I desire to get to that level of confidence. I am so thankful for the kids in my life that have taught me, that it doesn't matter the color of the power ranger suit they are all awesome in different ways, and learning that being pretty is sometimes a hard life to live because the pretty flowers always get picked and die. Thank you kids for all those life lessons.
Teens:
The dreaded group. They are loud, they are hardheaded, entitled, they are cocky, they are....human. They are learning to deal with a complicated world, trying to find a way to be themselves and be socially acceptable. And if they decide they don’t care about being socially acceptable, we judge them for not changing their lives to make the rest of us comfortable. Sure, let's all SH** on the teens for believing that they can be whoever they want to be. We shame them for thinking they can change the world, we call them naive for wanting jobs they will enjoy, and if they prefer puppies over babies we tell them they will be the death of humanity, and if they start having babies we tell them they are horrible parents and them raising other people will be the death of humanity. You can't win teens Take from someone who used to hate you. prejudice doesn't make sense don't ever try to change to please a bigot.
If you are not harming anyone, find out who you are! Explore! Experiment! And I will be the first to apologize to you for judging. Experimenting with hair, clothes, make up, sports, sex, sociability, and fun. I think of kids as the unashamed age, I think of teens as the exploration stage. If you have always wanted to be a black belt, go get it! but I challenge you to explore your reasons for wanting it. When you explore have a reason for trying it. Maybe you are trying to build your self confidence (that was my main goal as a teen), maybe you are trying to change or create your image. Do you want people to instantly look at you and think artist, badass, soldier, CEO, or maybe you want to ambiguous and leave people questioning to make you the most interesting person in the room. Don't let adults like me make you think we have it all figured out. We are just as lost, that's why we wander down target aisles looking for purpose disguised as graham crackers, that will inevitably end up on the floor. Or look for yoga mats that will be the launch pad for our self worth. Adults are still experimenting too.
I won't say that you will or won't make the world a better place, but those who say it can't be done shouldn't interrupt those doing it.
Teens, you have taught me to be aware of the things in my life that I am also figuring out for myself. I wouldn't want someone to judge me as I figure out at 27 that when you snap your fingers it's not the friction between the two fingers that make the sound. yeah, it's definitely your middle finger hitting your palm. Awkward for me. But I get it teens, society and I could cut you a little slack.
The dreaded group. They are loud, they are hardheaded, entitled, they are cocky, they are....human. They are learning to deal with a complicated world, trying to find a way to be themselves and be socially acceptable. And if they decide they don’t care about being socially acceptable, we judge them for not changing their lives to make the rest of us comfortable. Sure, let's all SH** on the teens for believing that they can be whoever they want to be. We shame them for thinking they can change the world, we call them naive for wanting jobs they will enjoy, and if they prefer puppies over babies we tell them they will be the death of humanity, and if they start having babies we tell them they are horrible parents and them raising other people will be the death of humanity. You can't win teens Take from someone who used to hate you. prejudice doesn't make sense don't ever try to change to please a bigot.
If you are not harming anyone, find out who you are! Explore! Experiment! And I will be the first to apologize to you for judging. Experimenting with hair, clothes, make up, sports, sex, sociability, and fun. I think of kids as the unashamed age, I think of teens as the exploration stage. If you have always wanted to be a black belt, go get it! but I challenge you to explore your reasons for wanting it. When you explore have a reason for trying it. Maybe you are trying to build your self confidence (that was my main goal as a teen), maybe you are trying to change or create your image. Do you want people to instantly look at you and think artist, badass, soldier, CEO, or maybe you want to ambiguous and leave people questioning to make you the most interesting person in the room. Don't let adults like me make you think we have it all figured out. We are just as lost, that's why we wander down target aisles looking for purpose disguised as graham crackers, that will inevitably end up on the floor. Or look for yoga mats that will be the launch pad for our self worth. Adults are still experimenting too.
I won't say that you will or won't make the world a better place, but those who say it can't be done shouldn't interrupt those doing it.
Teens, you have taught me to be aware of the things in my life that I am also figuring out for myself. I wouldn't want someone to judge me as I figure out at 27 that when you snap your fingers it's not the friction between the two fingers that make the sound. yeah, it's definitely your middle finger hitting your palm. Awkward for me. But I get it teens, society and I could cut you a little slack.
Adults:
I love my adult friends, most are parents, lots are professionals, and some are both. As an adult without children I appreciate the grind I see my friends put out everyday. Even the non parents that juggling school, work, relationships, volunteering and changing the world! This is our time to grind! We are the ones who have realized that our dreams impact others and sometimes we have to change or alter them. It can be a depressing realization. But to everyone who keeps waking up to a job they hate or a world that hurts them. I hope we can put a little more good in the world today. We may be broke, ok let’s be real a lot of us are broke...but we are going to get out of it, and we will succeed even if our success is just starting the process. I am thankful for my adult friends because we see a silver lining of financial success instead of mere sustainability. We work towards our goals, whether that is a family, career success, political change, environment protection, living our dreams or building a dream house. Adults we are supposed to have it all together, and I am thankful for the moments when I am reassured that everyone else is just fumbling through life as well. Life is hard and since none of us had a choice in whether we came into life or not, since we are here, we have to learn to navigate it. I thank you for fumbling through life and being honest about it. I thank you for supporting the woman who wants to stay home and have kids as well as the woman who wants to work and have puppies. I thank you for being the lunk in the gym that also encourages the overweight person who feels uncomfortable. Do you get it? We are at the time in life that our parents were preparing us for. Remember they said "you are our future." Well for us the future is now and I love that! Thank you for being an everyday inspiration to me.
I love my adult friends, most are parents, lots are professionals, and some are both. As an adult without children I appreciate the grind I see my friends put out everyday. Even the non parents that juggling school, work, relationships, volunteering and changing the world! This is our time to grind! We are the ones who have realized that our dreams impact others and sometimes we have to change or alter them. It can be a depressing realization. But to everyone who keeps waking up to a job they hate or a world that hurts them. I hope we can put a little more good in the world today. We may be broke, ok let’s be real a lot of us are broke...but we are going to get out of it, and we will succeed even if our success is just starting the process. I am thankful for my adult friends because we see a silver lining of financial success instead of mere sustainability. We work towards our goals, whether that is a family, career success, political change, environment protection, living our dreams or building a dream house. Adults we are supposed to have it all together, and I am thankful for the moments when I am reassured that everyone else is just fumbling through life as well. Life is hard and since none of us had a choice in whether we came into life or not, since we are here, we have to learn to navigate it. I thank you for fumbling through life and being honest about it. I thank you for supporting the woman who wants to stay home and have kids as well as the woman who wants to work and have puppies. I thank you for being the lunk in the gym that also encourages the overweight person who feels uncomfortable. Do you get it? We are at the time in life that our parents were preparing us for. Remember they said "you are our future." Well for us the future is now and I love that! Thank you for being an everyday inspiration to me.
Older:
Thank the universe for our elders. Seriously if you have no friends over the age of 60, I challenge, scratch that, I implore you to find some! But in case that doesn’t happen, here is what I have learned so far: when you want to complain about walking from bar to bar, or party to party remember that one day it won’t just be your feet hurting because of your poor shoe choice, it may be a hip. And that, you can’t trade out for some flats to make it more comfortable. Or it may be annoying to have an older sibling tease you, but when your siblings start dying, you will miss those jabs of playful insults. Save now!! Not when you are 40, not when you are 60 soon as you have money to save! Save it!! Warren buffet says: do not save what is left after spending, spend what is left after saving. Older people should have to walk around with spoiler alert stickers. Thinking of buying your first house, getting married, joining the military, staying in the military, starting a business, studying history in school.....there is an older person somewhere who could tell you how those events could possibly play out. Learn from their mistakes and their successes. Talking to someone who lived through the first time schools were integrated and listening to someone describe being at the fall of the berlin wall will always be more interesting than a textbook. And learning from them is always safer than gambling with big decisions. Thank you older people!
Thank the universe for our elders. Seriously if you have no friends over the age of 60, I challenge, scratch that, I implore you to find some! But in case that doesn’t happen, here is what I have learned so far: when you want to complain about walking from bar to bar, or party to party remember that one day it won’t just be your feet hurting because of your poor shoe choice, it may be a hip. And that, you can’t trade out for some flats to make it more comfortable. Or it may be annoying to have an older sibling tease you, but when your siblings start dying, you will miss those jabs of playful insults. Save now!! Not when you are 40, not when you are 60 soon as you have money to save! Save it!! Warren buffet says: do not save what is left after spending, spend what is left after saving. Older people should have to walk around with spoiler alert stickers. Thinking of buying your first house, getting married, joining the military, staying in the military, starting a business, studying history in school.....there is an older person somewhere who could tell you how those events could possibly play out. Learn from their mistakes and their successes. Talking to someone who lived through the first time schools were integrated and listening to someone describe being at the fall of the berlin wall will always be more interesting than a textbook. And learning from them is always safer than gambling with big decisions. Thank you older people!
UPDATE:
I tracked ALL my spending and this month it paid off. I noticed a almost $70 charge on Amazon in Canada! I was so excited. Worked with my bank and got it all worked out very quickly. I also have been able to notice trend analysis in my spending habits. Thanks to Optimal Finance Daily. Please go check out that site and awesome podcast out. I am in no position to be offering advice on finances, so let me offer you the resources that I am using to change my financial situation for the better. Links below!
Follow your arrow song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQ8xqyoZXCc brainless Financial planning
https://www.mint.com/
Optimal Finance Daily
http://oldpodcast.com/category/optimalfinancedaily/
Learn about money for FREE
https://www.smartaboutmoney.org/
Warren Buffet advice
https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/warren-buffetts-6-best-money-tips-for-2016-and-beyond.html
