CheRae

CheRae
Growth as an actor and as a human being are synonymous

Sunday, January 28, 2018

Realism

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Hopefully you heard/read the last topic on Encouragement and are now tuning in to get the latest from me on realistic goals. If you haven’t heard the Encouragement podcast I encourage you to go take a listen and come back to this one. Thanks for listening this is CheRae on the Way where I am in no position to help anyone else so I am documenting and sharing the ways I am helping myself, to hopefully help someone else. Crazy right?
Alright, realists are the friends that you need. ‘Future you’ loves realists, current you will almost always see them as party poopers. They are the people that will tell you that maybe your girlfriend isn’t right for you and that maybe you should go to the gym to help with your anger issues.  Those friends. So how much stake should we put in our realistic friends’ opinions? 
The quote from uncertain origins (either Chinese proverb or early 1900s magazine) says “The person who says it cannot be done, should not interrupt the person who is doing it.” Some versions of this vary but the premise is the same. Determine what your friend’s motivations are first. If they seem to be to get you to eventually quit all together then maybe seek some encouragement elsewhere. Or if they are only poking holes in your plan in some areas they may just be getting you to think it all the way through and yes you should listen to them.
The next step in goal creation is being realistic about it. I wasn’t really sure how my podcast would play out but I know that sometimes my full time job requires crazy hours and I probably wouldn’t be able to devote a lot of time to making podcasts. Also one of my goals is to get a degree soon and schoolwork with a full time job will definitely not allow for an everyday podcast.  But I may be able to post bi weekly or even monthly. Realistic goals. I plan to keep them. Will I? Who knows but I hope I do.
My next realistic goal that I need to accomplish is that if I plan to get my degree I have got to get better at math. So my amazing boyfriend got me math books and is willing to stoop down to my basic math level and help me. He is a chemical engineer by the way so he is really good with numbers. In addition, I would also like to become a regular after work gym goer. I am privileged to have a free gym and a smart boyfriend on hand to help with these two goals but I must still be realistic about time commitments and my own willpower. So let me say this you may not have someone to help you and you may not have a free gym or free anything given to you. But I want you to know that your success will mean that much more. Please don’t succeed in silence post the days you knock out 5 pushups in the morning before work and the nights where you watched a 3 minute Youtube video on how to solve simple algebraic equations. These are the little successes that matter when you are bettering yourself. If the odds are against you that is even more reason to try to succeed extravagantly and watch the world stare in awe of you.
When someone points out an obstacle in the way of your goal they could just be a realist, and you that obstacle although is not a reason to quit is something to take in to consideration.

I have started tracking all my expenses on an excel spreadsheet hoping to do it for all of 2018, but the realist in me is saying let’s just try and do it completely and honestly for a month. I got the idea from the Optimal Finance Daily podcast. Please check that one out as well, the podcast reads from financial blogs who have the experience to keep you financially smart and the podcasts are short 5-8 minutes. Maybe that’s an advantage to you I tend to always want more of that awesome podcast. Check it out! And then check back in with me to see how I am coming along with my finance tracking. I’m CheRae and I’m on my way.

Supporting Documents:

3 minute math                  
10 minute workout

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